Dating a divorced man is not like dating a man who has never been married before.

Many women knowingly date these men and then get upset when he does not have the money or the time to spend on them.

You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.

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But I quickly learned that this wasn't my kid, and the rules were different at my boyfriend's house. So if I felt a Playstation attack coming on, I left. I invited them places and if they didn't want to go, I went with someone else or by myself. If he doesn't do anything about it if it happens again, go straight to the kid. (And I can hear the parents recoiling that the childless girl is suggesting it! She not only gave vows to her new husband, she also gave vows to her new stepson.

When you date someone who has a child, they can feel that their life has more "weight" than yours -- like you should do whatever they want to do based on their schedules and needs. Be gentle, but let them know that things are a-changin' in the house. If I ever find myself in that situation, I'll totally do it, too.

Also be aware that you will have a whole new set of issues with step children.

There is nothing wrong with dating a divorced man and you can have a wonderful relationship, if you go into it with your eye wide open and know what to expect.

For now, my advice is to also play the waiting game with the ex -- take your time before you meet him or her. Realize you are taking someone else's child into your life.

Show that you care about the child, and you will go a long way towards a good relationship with the mother or father of your brand new kid.

Any decent man will put his kids first before your relationship.

If you are not willing to accept the baggage that comes with dating a divorced man you should date someone who has never been married.

When I felt bad and bought them a few outfits with my own money and she had the balls to demand I give up the reciepts so she could take them back and use the money for her own needs. When I went 2 winters with out heat so she could get her BOAT FIXED, Go on a cruise, spend the holidays in NEW YORK CITY. Even more sadly though, through all of it I would have not minded as long as the kids had what they needed and not been the least bit bitchy about going with out.

The kids have been little more than pawns to a better pay day and yet she has had no time for them as they were not allowed here (her words) but they instead got pawned off on anyone who would take them.

(It's a small town, so we kind of knew each other, but not really.) I was extra, extra lucky because my boyfriend had a (mostly) good relationship with her.