After spending incalculable hours swiping, messaging, and hoping against hope that the person on the other side of your screen isn’t the worst—you give up.

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These are four of my favorite things in life—so we’re already off to a great start!

By creating a profile that reflects the way I see myself, I tend to match with guys who are looking for someone like me—not someone I’m pretending to be.

Sometimes it feels like everything’s going by very slowly, and there aren’t always clear road signs. This is because, in Australia, there aren’t formal dating rules like in some cultures.

Australians aren’t big on rules – unless it’s Aussie Rules Football.

So, if that statistic makes you think that apps aren’t a total waste of time, let me try to explain how using dating apps has helped me get more dates out in the real world. This summer, the number of dates I got through my phone and the number I got while out at parties, events and bars was exactly the same. I have no shame in admitting that my profile is carefully calibrated to attract the kind of people I want to meet.

There are pictures of me smiling, hiking, skiing and all dressed up—no bikini shots, no Snapchat-filtered selfies.

It seems their reputation as “the hookup app” (to quote my mom) is outdated.

And while Tinder’s shine has recently been eclipsed by other apps—Bumble, Hinge, The League, et al—this statistic is promising overall.

A very average Aussie relationship might go something like this: You meet at work or school, and you talk and get to know each other.

The first time you hang out, it’s probably not on a formal date.

You’re going to meet someone the old-fashioned way!